Feb 23, 2017

Beware, the SAHM

Since becoming a stay-at-home mother, I have realized how desperate I come off for adult conversation now. It was a slow, gradual realization I had. Like when I scheduled a girls night out for the first time since T was born and then I completely monopolized the conversation all night without realizing it. I just had so much to say! I was sitting in a restaurant with real clothes on, no diaper bag or baby on my hip with two other female adults. Hello, world.... I'm Erin and I'm out on the town!!!

Then there's the other moms I feel the need to cling to whenever they are around. The moms at the grocery store pushing their kids around in strollers. We smile or make a passing comment to each other about how our babies are looking at each other and then move on our way. But I have that 'missed connection' feeling. Wait! Come back! Be my friend and stand in Kroger's produce section for another 20 minutes (or until one of our babies cries- whichever comes first) and talk to me! I don't care what we talk about, it just feels good not to be reading The Pout Pout Fish for the 12th time today.

On another note, we've had a lot of people coming into our house lately due to some updates, repairs and inspections that come with selling a house. Typically these are men working on such projects, but that doesn't stop me. I welcome them in with exuberance which, come to think of it, might be why they work so quickly and get things done in less time than estimated. I just thought they were efficient. Occasionally one of them will give me a small nugget of real life which I hungrily accept. The guy working in our basement this week saw T and said, "Cute kid. My wife is 5 months pregnant." So I took that as my cue to congratulate him, ask him if they knew if it was a boy or girl, recite any and all baby names I've ever liked, gave him the pros and cons of registering at Target and was sure to let him know what the best diaper brand is.

The UPS man, bank tellers, neighbors out for a walk or the woman at the deli counter... none of them are safe! Beware, the SAHM does not discriminate. You have been warned.

24 comments:

  1. LOL! This was amazing. I'd totally be that mom in Kroger, "Wait, don't go, lets hang out by the broccoli ... but we could be FRIENDS!!!" ;)

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  2. Haha! When my kids were young we did a lot of play dates and Mommy groups for the adult conversation necessity!

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  3. I hope this doesn't come off as rude because I'm not trying to say our situations are the same, but I basically sit in my office all day so I really crave friendship also, especially because I'm such an extrovert, so I'm always trying to get people to meet R and I at the park and such after work! I miss college where all your best friends were right down the hall. Those were such fun times. R loves Pout Pout Fish too!

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  4. Cracking. Up. But, i do totally think it's not just a SAHM mom thing - it's a post-college thing! It's hard to make friends as a grown up! I am lucky enough to work in an incredibly social, conversationally (?) office, so my adult interaction needs are pretty well met, but as far as making friends, as a grown up? I'd totally talk to someone in the produce section :)

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  5. Omg yes. Seriously, there was once this woman I talked to at target for probably 30 minutes one day when Graham was little, and I'm still kicking myself for not getting her phone number and being BFFs. Hahaha

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  6. Hah! Minus the Pout Pout Fish, as a work-from-homer I totally get it. My boyfriend works out of town a few days a week too, so some days my only interaction is with stranger... I'm pretty sure our dry cleaning lady thinks I'm a little nuts!

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  7. This is HILARIOUS. Obviously, I'm not a mom, yet, but I can totally see how this can happen so easily!

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  8. I work from home a lot and I swear the mailman RUNS to drop our mail in the box and get back to his route before I come out and strike up a conversation! Ha!

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  9. LOL I love this. I'm not even a stay at home mom nor do I work from home & I feel like this sometimes. I NEED FRIENDS!

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  10. Hahaha, I know exactly what you mean! It's so easy to over share with a stranger when they're the only adult you see all day. So cute!

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  11. Haha...I love this posting! I meet amazing moms all the time (usually at the playground while we watch our kids play), but I'm too shy to ask for their number so we can BE FRIENDS!!! I'm not a SAHM, but I still don't get out as much as I used to - so a girls night out with no toddler to chase down and demand they eat their dinner - sounds amazing!!! Blogger dinner night soon???!!!!

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  12. Haha I love this! I'm telling you best thing I did was make a point to get out of the house every day and get some interaction - baby storytime, music class, swim class, the gym.. I'll do anything these days!!! ;)

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  13. Hahaha YES. This is so real! I seriously stare longingly at the other moms in the grocery store and try to will them into being my friend. I'm glad I'm not the only one who does this! I had a 10 minute chat with my favorite produce guy this morning and it made my whole day. What is my life coming to?

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  14. Being a mom can really be lonely sometimes! Even though I work full time, I work from home most days and the days I go into the office I just want someone to freaking talk to me but we are all busy working and most of the day goes by with just the chatter at lunch. There is a girl in the cube next to me that is due in April and she always tries to sneak over so I can impart my wisdom on her a bit but last time I went to the office she was off and I was so sad lol.

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  15. This is HYSTERICAL. I can't even imagine how lonely it must feel sometimes without any adult conversation! How come when I tell random moms how cute their kid is they seem to run away from me like I'm a freak?! Haha...

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  16. HAHAHAHA YES!!!! Oh my gosh, yes!!! I'm usually not a people person but I do find myself talking to random people in stores that want to talk to me.

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  17. So much yes! I talk my husbands ear off as soon as he walks in the door most days lol.

    And also the pout pout fish ... we absolutely love that series here!

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  18. This is so me and I am only off 1 day a week, but I always feel like I need to make new mom friends. I have an almost 5 month old and I feel like I need to be friends with everyone who has a child around his age lol.

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  19. Bahahaha THIS IS SO TRUE...I'm a WAHM, and I'm STILL like this!

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  20. So funny and so true!! I have been known to strike up conversations with random moms I encounter out and about and strangers. too :)

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  21. Hahahaha YESSSS. This is especially true if I've recently had my daily latte. I love it when my friends and I get together for play dates and both have SO MUCH TO SAY. It makes me realize I'm definitely not alone in feeling the need for adult convos! <3

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  22. Haha this is truer than I'd like to admit! I honestly try to get out of the house 2-3 times a week just to get some adult conversation. My hubby talks all day at work so when he gets home he just wants to rest. No help for my need to have conversation! You're definitely not alone ;)

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