May 24, 2016

Let's Chat

I come to this blog almost daily and want to write, but many days as of late I end up closing the tab before I ever type a word. It's just hard to form coherent thought sometimes ya know? So today I thought I'd talk to you blogger to blogger. Just me and you sitting down for some girl talk to catch up, share what's going on and have an open conversation. That's all I really want at this point- someone to chit chat with and enjoy a good beverage together. I don't think that's asking too much.

I'd be drinking the coldest ice water with lemon but I'd openly admit that I honestly just really want to drink a fountain Mountain Dew instead. Or maybe a Sonic slushie- it's probably a good thing I didn't discover those until the last month of pregnancy. A really, really good thing.
I'd likely share our little boy's name, since we'd be in person and not on the internet. We use it so much at home it's hard not to type it online. With each passing day it gets a little bit tougher not to share it on the blog/social media world. I worry about creepers and privacy sometimes, and other times I just want to say "who cares?!" It's a never-ending battle in my mind.

I'd confide in you that every single day, typically multiple times a day, I worry about how childcare will work once I have go to back to work. I'd tell you it seriously makes me sick to my stomach thinking of the hours I'll be away from my little guy. I'd probably beg you to help me find a new job that lets me work from home... or closer to home... or part-time with the same pay/benefits as I have now ;) Wishful thinking, right?!

I'd probably admit to you that I have hardly any experience with newborn babies- but that I cannot wait to have one of my own to snuggle! I think my fear/nerves with tiny babies comes from the parents typically- watching me like a hawk when I meet their new little one and giving me a play-by-play of what I should be doing. It'll be nice to have my own cutie to care for and love on in the privacy of our own home.

Before I scare you into thinking I shouldn't be allowed to have a baby- I'll be quick to remind you that Jared is a superstar and I know he's going to be such a great dad. I hope our little boy looks just like him! It's so fun to think about what he'll look like, and so exciting that we'll finally know in a few weeks!

We'd wrap up our date after a couple hours of nonstop back and forth. I'm sure we'd glance at the clock and be all, "Wow! How did two hours pass by already?!" You'd get a big hug from me- possibly an awkward one since this belly gets in the way of everything these days. I'd follow up with a text where we promise to meet up again soon. Friend dates are so important- and they just don't happen enough. Maybe next time we meet I'll be enjoying that Mountain Dew ;)

34 comments:

  1. Sonic slushies are the best!!!!! :)

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  2. It's been too long since we've caught up over a DEW!! I don't think I'll ever get over the obsession. ;)

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  3. I have the same feelings about babies - I don't have a ton of new born experience, just some with my nephew, but still not a lot! Definitely would be different with one of my very own. A Mountain Dew would be fabulous...I just love that pop but haven't had it in so long!

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  4. I need to get up to Cincy ASAP so we can have these chats in person, friend!

    I hear you about safety, it's crazy how careful you need to be. About four years ago I started to get really protective about kids on my blog, friend's kids and stuff because it's not my right to share their faces or names online. Not my right just my responsibility. Maybe make up a cute nickname for now…baby bengal or something so he's not just an it or he. Or Baby first initial. You can always choose to share later, which is nice.

    Sending you big huggggggggs!

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  5. Experience or not, that mommy intuition kicks in and you just know what to do... you're going to be an amazing mom!!

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  6. You are going to be the best mom! And it never hurts to ask your current job if you can work from home a day or two...just saying ;) Often when you go on maternity leave they see how much they need you and just might be more inclined to say yes!

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  7. If I were answering I would say...pick a cute nickname you can use for your little boy on the blog and keep his name just for you. There is nothing scarier to me than internet creepers and second I try to imagine if K's older friends, teachers, or even employers found my stories about her on the internet. They says once it's there it's there forever.

    Also I think knowing what to do with a little one comes naturally. I didn't have a ton of baby experience either but it's really not that hard. You're intuition will tell you what's right for you and your family. Even if it's not what the books, professionals, or everyone else says. It's about finding what works for your family and rolling with it, you guys will both do great! :)

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  8. Hey, feel free to message or email me any time. I'll even give you my number if you want to text. I had all the same feelings about going back to work and wanting to stay home, etc. Going back to work gets easier, but it definitely is hard.

    We would have a nice long chat over some Mexican food. That's my requirement. ;)

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  9. I'm sorry you're stressing about childcare. That is so hard, and as much as people try to be sympathetic, no one can really understand unless you have to do it/are doing it. Here's a secret to life that I recently realized: no one at all knows what they are doing. Not just with babies but with any and everything. That girl at the store who looks all put together? Yeah, she has no idea what she's doing. Take heart :)

    p.s. Something to consider about the name thing... If you Google image search someone's name, all the pictures of them come up. So if you share his name, anyone could search for it and pull up all the pics you post on the blog in one place. It is completely personal preference, and I don't care what anyone else does one way or the other (not judging!), but if you're questioning it already, it's just something to think about.

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  10. So there is a name, yay! Can't wait to hear what it is eventually. I have had friends who haven't shared it only because they were afraid that once the baby popped out that the name wouldn't fit.

    I think all work places should have daycares for their employees so if there is a needed break, you can just go visit (or nurse) and then go back to work. Maybe I should start that movement as a new job, haha!

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  11. Waaaaaah, I wish we lived closer! I'd come nanny for you in a heartbeat, especially since my job is ending this week. I know you will be a fabulous mommy because you already love him so fiercely! There's something so different about caring for your own baby. And I'm a hugger too so I always smile when other people are the same way!

    I really loved this post!

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  12. Super iced cold ice water is the way to go! I don't have a ton of experience with newborns either. I mean, I was around my nephews when they were babies but it is different when it's your own. I don't blame you about being weary to share the baby's name, as you never know with the internet. So many difficult decisions to make when it comes to what and how much to share!

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  13. I can't get enough of ice cold water right now! And I had my first Sonic slushie last week after you posted about it... so flippin good! I've had two more since then ;) Ha! Can't wait to hear his name, we finally settled on one this past week and it's the best feeling!!

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  14. Awww, I am so excited to hear his name. And, don't worry all of those fears are normal. You will be such an amazing Mom, and everything will fall into place once he's here and you just get used to the new normal. I'm so happy for you two!

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  15. I still cant believe you are going to be having that sweet boy so soon!!! Didnt you JUST announce you were pregnant! I am so excited to go through your mothering journey it truly is THE best ever!!! Enjoy every second of those baby snuggles because he will be graduating pre-k before you know it. I can already tell you I am going to be a HOT MESS Friday when I will officially have a kindergartner!

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  16. SONIC!!!!

    I'm sorry childcare is stressing you out. I worked in early childhood education for the first 4/5 years of Boomer's life so I could be closer to her and do school part time. I actually took care of the 6week to 6 months crowd for most of that time. I can tell you first hand, we LOVE our babies. Even our hard, colicky, never really happy except once a day, babies. One of my babies who is now about 7 years old, saw me in line at a local ice cream place when he was 3. He hadn't seen me in years. His face just LIT up. I say that to say, the people that you leave him with will be well trained. Required by law to do a certain # of hours per year trained. They will be compassionate and loving. They will also NEVER replace you and Jared. As much as my babies loved me. I was NOT mommy or daddy. We could have been having the best time on the floor playing, but as soon as they hear mommy and daddy's voice, or see their face, I'm gone. I'm nothing. Its all them.

    Sorry for the super long comment, but don't worry girl. You've got this. And whatever you don't 'got' at the moment you will learn. Look at me. Boomer is almost 10...and alive :-P

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  17. Sonic slushies for the win! So yummy!
    Don't worry about not having a ton of experience. I know it will all come naturally, and the stuff that doesn't, that's what family and friend support is for! You'll be great.
    The childcare issue is so tough! Hoping it all works out for you guys!

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  18. Sweet post, Erin. And now I want a giant ice cold Mountain Dew.

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  19. Oh girl- the whole childcare thing when you go back to work is rough. Being away from them definitely isn't easy...but I've also realized that it's good for me to have adult interaction. And I really appreciate my time with him in the evening SOO much more!!!

    And don't even worry about no experience with a newborn. It just comes naturally. You'll both be wonderful parents!!!

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  20. Oh girl, so many things. I would just hug you. Number one - you're going to be amazing at this. Promise.

    As for his name, from reading your posts it seems you want to share it, but I get the safety concern. One thing you might consider doing is taking a photo of his name - whether you have a decal up or whatever, then referring to him as his initial. That way you've told your loyal readers ;) but it's not quite as searchable. I don't know if that makes sense, but it's just a thought.

    As for the childcare - you will figure it out. I promise. The first week is hard, but after that, it definitely gets easier. Find a childcare situation you're comfortable with and someone you trust. We have been incredibly fortunate with Abbie's daycare and she LOVES it there and even asks to go on weekends sometimes. It will be okay, I promise. <3

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  21. I'm still so surprised that you just recently discovered Sonic slushies, but it probably is a good thing that you just discovered them. If there was one closer to my house I'm sure that we'd be driving through all the time!

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  22. You are so cute! I want to do a post like this and if I ever get around to blogging again I'll give you credit for the idea :)

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  23. Ah the working mom struggle. I need maternity leave in this country to catch up to other countries. It's disgraceful.

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  24. Oh, girl - we have a lot of the same things to talk about right now!!! I'm worrying about childcare too - we found a great daycare - but I can't help but think of the time we'll be missing with our little man every day!

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  25. Hi! I'm a new follower so just wanted to say hello and tell you that neither me or my husband had much experience at all with babies prior to having our son last year. In fact, our little guy Caleb was the first baby my husband ever held. You will learn quickly though and all will be well... I promise. :)

    Going back to work was difficult, but not as bad as I thought it would be. It's tough but you'll definitely be okay!

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  26. I like Kelli's suggestion of using a nickname for baby boy. Also, I love slushies.

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  27. I don't even know the last time I held a baby before Gracie was born. I was TERRIFIED. If I can make it through, you'll do amazing. I promise! I'm so curious to hear his name if you ever do share! Though I don't blame you at all if you don't. The world is scary. I get anxious about sharing pictures.

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  28. I always feel nervous when new parents are watching me hold their baby with an eagle eye! I totally don't blame them though. I'm sure I'll do the same thing when I'm a new mom! You guys are going to be rockstar parents!!

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  29. I wish, wish, wish we could meet up for a chit-chat! I'd absolutely love that! I'm dying to know the little guy's name, but I'll patiently continue to wait. He's coming so soon! :) I can't wait to see you both with him. You're going to be awesome!

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  30. I would love to have a date! Maybe next time I'm in Cincy visiting Sarah :)

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  31. mmmmmm mountain dew. i totally know what you mean about sharing the name.. i don't think i will but i won't mind telling internet friends i consider real friends, if that makes sense. like in email. i just don't want it on the internet forever where anyone can see. there are definite creepers out there! and i am sure you're both going to be amazing parents! and the childcare thing... all i can say is good luck! i do not have advice or anything, but i can't imagine how hard it is going to be. hugs!

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  32. I was totally worried about child care too. At first, it was SO hard to go back to work. I hated every minute of it. After spending 24 hours a day with my little man for three months, I hated being away from him. I wanted so badly to quit and become a stay at home mom. What I can say, is that it got a lot easier over time. Now he is so active (he's 1) that I can't even fathom being at home with him all day, it would be so much work!

    I also had had very little time with babies when I had him. I was so scared in the hospital, I thought the nurses could see instantly that I didn't know what I was doing. I don't think I changed a single diaper while there...I let the nurses and daddy do it! What I can say is when I got home away from all of the "eyes" I felt were watching me, it all became completely natural! I fell right into it and I wasn't scared at all :)

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  33. Are you ever going to share his name or will he be referred to as Baby M or a nickname? I'm dying to know.

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  34. AHHHHHH. And now you have a baby. I'm catching up on blog reading. I'm soooo happy for you! Plus, your little guy has the best birthday week in the world. Sending so much love your way! Hope you're settling in with your new normal :)

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