Saying YES

A lot of times I feel like people struggle to say "no" to things in their lives. I hear that a lot from various friends and family that they aren't good at turning down fun events, commitments or obligations. I realized I kindof have the opposite problem and that I typically say no too much, instead of yes.

It's no secret that my job is incredibly demanding and I put in a ton of hours, especially at this time of year. I go days and weeks without a day off and often log 60-hour work weeks without batting an eye. I let my job consume me to the point where I find myself saying no to everything because I'm far too busy, right? Wrong.

We only get this one life and I don't want to look back and see that I missed out on a lot of fun or certain opportunities because I let my job rule my life. I don't want to be a workaholic! I don't want to let my job consume me! My boss works even longer hours than me and I often find myself wondering if/when he ever has free time away from the office or if he only says yes to his job. I can't live that way anymore, I just can't.

I said yes to a midweek dinner with my mom last night and even though I'm in the midst of football madness, eating out and having good conversation was just what I needed. I find myself saying yes to staying up way too late with Jared more often simply because we're having too much fun to make ourselves go to bed before a long work day. Heck, I said yes to ice cream a few nights ago and I never say yes to ice cream! I committed to a few social outings and obligations within the next couple weeks and although my hours at work will be in full force? I'm ready for some fun! Saying yes to fun and friends shouldn't be hard to do, but sadly it's something I struggle with at this point in life.

So here's to saying YES more often. It might mean less sleep and more dirty laundry that gets put off another day- but I know it also means good-for-the-soul fun and friendship. What will you say yes to this week?

27 comments

  1. Saying "yes" doesn't necessarily come naturally to me, but in the past few years I have been actively remembering to say "yes" to opportunity and adventure--that's the kind of stuff that makes this whole life worthwhile!

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  2. Love this. Saying yes is very important in my opinion. Of course there are times when no is necessary but I would rather look back at all of the things I got to do, & time spent with friends/family, rather than all the times I did the responsible thing & just stayed home for whatever reason.

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  3. Ohhhh I love this friend. I always think I need to say "no" to more things but after reading what you said, I so agree. I need to get out and live a little. Enjoy this time while I have it and not make excuses for saying no. I needed to read this today. Hope you have a great week!

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  4. Aww with your crazy busy work schedule I am sure it is hard to say "yes"!! I am one that says yes WAY TOO much!

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  5. I am always letting work get the best of me and saying no. But recently, I have scheduled Saturday night plans even when I work Sunday morning and at least one week night activity. It's made me feel a little more balanced.

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  6. Luckily work doesn't make me too crazy but it's just enough that when I come home, I enjoy just lounging on the couch for hours! I could definitely live a little more on my week nights and weekends - thanks for the reminder to get out there and enjoy life!!! :)

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  7. You never say yes to ice cream? That's one thing I NEVER turn down, ha ha! You really do have the craziest job but you do an amazing job at meeting it's demands!
    Eric's job was incredibly demanding as well and totally wiped him out, but I know he never regretted keeping plans that I made for us, just like I know you won't regret saying yes! Just don't be afraid to keep saying no when no needs to be said :)

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  8. I always try to be aware of saying no too much, because I don't want someone to get to the point where they assume I will say no, so they stop asking. I try to say yes to things too and seize the day! :)

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  9. Yes! I love this! Even though you said you never yes to ice cream... at least you did the other night! I've been saying yes to a heck of a lot Halloween candy lately...Oops! ;)

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  10. I realize I'm often a NO person, because I value my sleep, my relax time and don't want to be stuck eating something I don't really want [for vanity reasons]. But then I realize what I'm sometimes missing out on. A little less sleep or a lil more ice cream won't kill me, so here's to saying YES!

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  11. Since moving to my tiny town my rule has been to say yes to everything once. I have been to municipal band concerts, water aerobics, book club, the board for our library, apple pressing, to bars that i wouldn't usually frequent, new wineries, and various other weird town events.. and let me tell you. it has been so fun to get to know different people and start to see familiar faces around town. I am reading MWF Seeking BFF which i am enjoying and it is helping me to get out there even when I want to sit on the couch alone.. cause after a few hours, that gets lonely.

    I am always so impressed with how much you work and still show up every day. I don't know how you do it. ice cream well deserved. :)

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  12. You are so right. There should always be time for fun. That's why I'm coming to Cincy this weekend. We have so much going on but I can't turn down a weekend with John & his family sans kids! So glad you are making time for yourself!

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  13. Girl, I had to stop for several seconds and re-read the line where you said you never say yes to ice cream. What on earth?! I'm definitely one of those people who struggle to say no, but I'm slowly getting better at it. It's better to just be honest, make yourself a priority, and realize that you won't be hurting your friendship by saying no every now and then. I love that you're making the choice to say YES! You definitely deserve to indulge in some fun during the chaos of the season.

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  14. Love that Tina Fey quote..so simple and true!

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  15. Saying yes to fun is important. There has to be a balance &, girl, I think that you're finding it. Good for you! :)

    Mandie ~ http://badbrewpack.blogspot.com/

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  16. YES! I love this!! You can always put things in perspective for me .. and I've love reading the comments too!! :)

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  17. I always used to say yes and would never get anything done. Then I moved and now I tend to say no too often. It's definitely a balancing act! Thanks for the reminder that it's okay to say yes even when you're busy!

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  18. Say yes and you will figure it out afterwards, love it!!! I have a hard time saying no when people ask my help on things....but I don't have too much a problem turning people down for events. Especially if they are on a "school night."

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  19. Erin, it's funny that you shared this. I have the opposite problem lately. I say yes to way too many activities. Which is mostly problematic only because I'm trying to get out of debt too, and can't afford to go out all the time with my friends, if that makes sense. But I say yes because I want to, and because I want to keep my friends happy. It's something that I struggle with. I mean we go "out out" every Friday and Saturday...

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  20. I have no problem saying no or yes, but I'm a little bit slower to say yes to things that are within a week. I like to know what my week looks like going in so I can schedule my musts and my maybes!

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  21. This is awesome! I tend to get easily overwhelmed when I have too much on my plate, so I get almost panicky if my schedule is too full, which makes me more likely to want to say no to things. Or I feel like saying yes to some things (like you said, staying up late or eating something "bad") would make me irresponsible. But you are so right that we aren't meant to just work 24/7, we need some of those times when we say yes to fun!

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  22. I love this post so much girl! I am always so automatically programed to say no now because I never think I'm going to have enough time but the times I actually do say yes......they end up being usually the highlight of my week!

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  23. YES! I like these thoughts, although I have made more of an effort to say both YES AND NO, but only when appropriate. YES to more things that make me feel fulfilled, and NO to other things that will leave me drained and overstretched. It's hard to find that balance sometimes, right? We're told we have to say yes to everything and do it all! But, it's good to set aside some YES time to things that make your heart happy. :)

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  24. oh my oh my!! i recently did a VERY similar post, except yours was 100x more well written (see right there i can't even say that right) than mine! I don't usually post links to my own blog on someone's page but this was the easiest way i could refer to it: yes woman lol

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  25. Great post and so true. Being mindful of our limitations, yet not using no as our default is very important. But guess what? So is fun! Enjoy!

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  26. I am that person who has a hard time saying no. I'm getting better at realizing that life is too short to not do what you want to do. And sometimes that means saying no. In my case anyway. For the longest time I've filled my life with others and neglected some of the things I really wanted, simply because I didn't want to hurt feelings or miss out by saying no. I hope that saying yes to some things that you would normally say no to has made you happy!! And now you should say yes to a blate with me!!!

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  27. I'm totally guilty of saying no too much too... I totally get it!

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