If We Met For Coffee

I'd probably tell you I don't actually drink real coffee, first and foremost. Why I picked meeting for coffee, I don't know… but since we're here, I'll take some type of frozen beverage that doesn't taste like coffee, preferably with whipped cream on top. I had to dig through the archives of 2012 to even find a picture of me with a coffee cup. Pst- that's white hot chocolate in there!

I'd tell you that the past few weeks have been tough at my job, and I'm coming up on my five year anniversary of working there. I'd tell you I have no idea how five years have went by and I'd also tell you I have absolutely no idea where I plan to be five years in the future.

I'd probably talk too much during our get together and tell dumb stories, hopefully you'd pretend to be entertained. Then when I realized how much I was rambling on, I'd apologize for talking so much and try to slow down… but something about that cold non-coffee beverage just gets me excited, I can't help it!

You'd learn that I laugh a lot and I'd hope you would think I'm easy to get to know. I don't really hold back in life… whether it's with friendships, careers or just passions. I'm an all-in kinda' girl.

I'd share with you that Jared and I love our church and attend regularly. Our pastor is incredible and each week we feel uplifted and challenged when we leave. As great as it is, we've had a hard time making friends there. It seems we can't find those people in their late 20s that don't have kids yet… maybe it's because we're the only ones! I'd ask you if you know why it's so hard to make friends as an adult? I sure can't figure out why.

During our coffee session I'm sure the topic of football would come up, seeing as how I seem to eat, sleep and breathe it most days. I'd tell you I'm really excited to watch every single round of the NFL draft, and yes, I'm serious. I'd tell you my team's going all the way this year, just like I say every year about this time.

I'd probably show you my planner and the multiple pads of paper and notebooks I carry in my way-too-large purse and if you needed a pen or marker? I've got one in every single color in this "luggage" of mine too. I can't get through a day without lists and color-coded post-it's and to-do's. I'd admit that I try to over-plan my life and that I shouldn't, but I just can't stop myself. It's who I am.

I'd tell you I'm scared that those life plans won't turn out how I want them, and I'm scared of not accomplishing things in my life that are important to me. I'd tell you that there are a zillion things I want to do and see and can't find the time to balance them all. As organized as I try to be, I can't ever seem to find enough hours in the day… even though I know they are there.

At the end of our coffee date I'd hug you big, because I'm a big hugger type of person. I'd then probably immediately draw back and apologize for being a creepy over-hugging person and do some more of that laughing I tend to do in every situation. I'd be on my merry way then, leaving in my old car, driving too fast and listening to music too loud, but I'd be happy. I'd be happy and joyful because despite any negativity in my life, I choose to find the positive. And I hope you do too.

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  1. It is HARD to make friends as an adult. But I think I've found success in making friends with people who aren't like me--besides, is there really anyone just like you? Most of our friends are bachelors or couples with kids.
    And I don't drink anything that tastes like coffee either. I usually get an ice blended chocolate drink of some sort...

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  2. I think we might need to switch churches with you! We can't find early 20's who have little kids, but either way it is TOUGH to make friends as an adult. I met a super nice woman and her husband at the park yesterday, their daughter was adorable and just a little younger than Quinn, and it turns out they're just visiting from Arizona. Not close at all.

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  3. Making friends with new people as an adult IS hard, especially when it seems like everyone in church has kids!!! I just love this post. I agree with pretty much everything...sometimes, when I get a good vibe from potential clients, at the end, I hug them...whoops! ;) then I over-apologize that "I'm a hugger! Get used too it!" ;)

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  4. First off, I'd like to suggest that we go have margaritas instead of coffee because you've met your match in the non-coffee loving arena.

    It's official - you would be the perfect happy hour date. This all sounds so enjoyable :)

    And don't worry, sometimes you're not supposed to know what's going to happen next. That's the fun of it all!

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  5. ...and I would love to have "non-coffee" with you!
    I can't function without lists and the fact that you might talk a lot would be perfect for me because I usually don't! That's a match for sure! :)

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  6. I'm a frozen-non-coffee-extra-whip-cream-drink girl myself!! This sounds like a great little non-coffee date!! :)

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  7. It is so hard to make friends as an adult! I'm hoping that when Little K starts school and has activities I'll meet other mom's I can relate to.

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  8. I wish we lived closer to each other so that we could have coffee dates on the regular and share our stories! I would definitely have to have coffee though ;)

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  9. I so want to meet for hot chocolate or some other fab drink with whipped cream on top!

    I 100% agree about making friends as an adult. I felt completely out of the loop moving to a town I didn't know anyone else and not having any kids. We even lost touch with friends who did have kids before us because they thought we wouldn't want to be around the kids. CRAZY! Now that we have Xavier, it has been much easier to make new friends and continue to hangout. I think it is because life is SO crazy once you have kids and you need other parents to make you feel ok with your decisions, etc.

    And of course we would talk football! We may be cheering for different teams, but I don't care! I love to talk football with someone else who gets it! :)

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  10. Your blog is always such a joy to read, my friend. Love this. I too, don't drink coffee. It's always kind of embarrassing to say it because people don't seem to understand how I live without it. haha. I always explain to them that I am already "high on life" and the extra caffeine would probably turn me into a crazy person. =) I also do not know where I will be career wise or heck..."life" wise in 5 years. I also struggle to make friends now that I'm old & married & kidless. And I'm a hugger. So, I think we'd find on our coffee date that we have a bunch in common. And then I'd probably consider moving to Ohio. The end. =D

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  11. Ok, so come to DC and have coffee with me, NOW.

    I'm not going to lie, I'm pretty excited for the draft myself!

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  12. Because it sounds weird to say "Hey let's meet up for a fozen non-coffee beverage." I still always say- let's go get coffee even though I don't drink coffee.

    Also- YES to the challenge of making friends as adults. YES to football! YES to hugs- hugs are my favorite.

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  13. Wow, I don't know how you make it without coffee. I have to have it every single morning or I'm a major grump!
    But I can totally hug it out with you! :)

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  14. Can we please go out for coffee? Or at least a cold non-coffee beverage? ;)

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  15. I love this. I'd have coffee with you. Well, I'd have coffee. You have whatever you'd like.

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  16. I'm glad I can say that I've had mexican food, katy perry dance party and just girl time with you!!!!! :) And lots of hugs! I need to come back ASAP!

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  17. I would skip the coffee and eat Mexican with you instead :) Happy draft day! I can't wait to see who the Vikings pick up. Our year is coming... eventually!

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  18. I'll meet you for smoothies :) I am not a coffee drinker either.

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  19. I really love your positive attitude and although I am a coffee lover... I'd love to meet you for hot chocolate or something delicious with whipped cream! or... I like what Steph G said... Mexican food for the win! p.s. I still feel like we could be friends... even with me having a kid :)

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    1. We can definitely be friends ;) Trust me- most people our age have kids, WE are apparently the odd-balls!! PS- You are set as a no reply blogger, so I can't find a way to email you back!!

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  20. I can't believe you don't drink coffee! Though I drink enough coffee for the both of us...

    We could talk football and discuss the difference between the CFL and NFL. Oh, and about how much your husband looks like my teams (former) star wide receiver haha. The countdown is on for me for when football season starts back up!

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  21. It IS impossible to make friends as an adult even in the city you grew up in! We're lucky that a lot of our close friends from around here are wanting to wait to have kids. My friends from college... well, that's a different story! We've had a rough time meeting people our age at our church period. We're about to try the 20-30 group meeting and see if that works

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  22. YAY! Another non-coffee drinker. We could totally have an un-coffee date (ironically, my sister was in your neck of the woods over the weekend as her hubby had a job interview in Cinci!)

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  23. I loved this post!!! I find making friends as an adult is difficult too. Once you make em though you gotta hug dem tight tight! Hope works starts looking up!

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  24. I love this post and we have so much in common! I don't drink coffee-- green tea for me! I'm also in my late 20's without kids-- two furry pets though. And I'm obsessed with the Bengals though I do not have the continual optimism that you seem to retain year after year. After so many ups and downs, my confidence ebbs and flows but on game day I'm always hopeful!

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    1. I don't drink coffee OR green tea, I'm a weirdo!! ;) A good chai tea is good in my book though! :)

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  25. If we met for coffee:

    1. You would probabaly not want to hug me at the end of our date because my coffee breath would be so bad! I love it ... can you say grande decaf white chocolate mocha non-fat no whip?
    2. We would ending up talking about who loves their church more. We go to a mega contemporary church with an amazing pastor. We also have a hard time meeting people because there are just so many. Or maybe it's the fact that my husband and I are awful at small talk. I just want to play 20 questions and know everything about someone.
    3. I know at our date we would also spend the majority of our time talking about football. How the Cowboys might have a chance this year - since they are God and America's team.
    4. I would then proceed to get out my Erin Condren life planner, my notebook from target, and my maybook and schedule our next coffee date.

    Needless to say - we have too much in common and I'm sure we would hit it off right away! =)

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  26. Screw coffee, you & I would be hitting up a sporting event of some type. We'd drink our drinks (I don't do beer so probably a Mountain Dew), enjoy some nachos, share a pretzel (that sounds kinda creepy - ha!), do I best Ferris Bueller impersonation & just have a good ol' time. That would be super...can we actually do that?! :)

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  27. You are TOO CUTE! Hope you're having a great day!! :)

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  28. What an awesome coffee date this would be! I also over plan, obsess over football, hug way too often, can't seem to make friends in the new church I am attending (which really bums me out, because those are the kind of friends I am currently lacking in), and no matter what we could laugh the whole time!

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    1. It's hard to make friends, but I'm determined too! I hope you can too- church friends are the best :)

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  29. Aw, I love this post. I'd gladly take a hug from you and I'd hug you back super hard!

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  30. I do feel like everyone our age has kids. Crazy. I think we'd laugh a lot on a coffee date probably. But no hugs ;) I'm not a hug person....

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  31. I love this. and I wish I knew you in real life so we could talk football and drink anything but coffee :)

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  32. No coffee here either - more like a strawberry iced tea from sonic. I'd love to talk planners with you - i'm a paper planner kind of girl - just can't go electronic for a planner. I would also love to talk football with you - I am a die hard Chiefs fan.

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  33. When you find more people in their 20s without kids, please direct me to them! We can all be one big happy family :)
    I love all of your planners, post-it's, and notebooks...makes me feel a little less crazy haha!

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  34. ERIN. I just flipped out a little over what you said about church. James and I have been really struggling to make friends at church, because the past few we've gone to we've been the only ones without kids. I felt like no one else understood that struggle. And on that note, let's go get coffee...or non coffee :)

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  35. I love this.. Non coffee date please? I hate the taste of real coffee I guess that is why when I go to starbucks I like my cotton candy frappe ;)

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  36. Girl we have so much in common! There's just something about a hug from a friend that puts a smile on ones face :)

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  37. Um, I have a feeling we would become best friends after sharing our planners;) Oh, and love for football.

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  38. I love this post! I'm not a big fan of coffee either. We could met for wine or food and that would be right up my alley. I am a huge hugger too!! I love our church but I feel the same way ppl in the late 20s/early 30s who don't have kids. Not that I don't like kids, but I want sometime in our season of life. BTW I am planning a trip to Ohio soon!!

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  39. This is great, I love coffee, but don't judge ;)

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  40. this sounds like the BEAT coffee/non-coffee date! let's set this up! ;)
    i think its hard to make friends as a married adult b/c you have to meet someone that you BOTH like and if they're married you have to also like their other half! ;) its tough.

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  41. this sounds like a fun coffee date!!! I love sitting at the coffee shop just to relax. I am a hugger too!! And I tend to ramble and talk too much usually its about Breanna O_o so you could just tell me to shut up if you're sick of hearing about her lol

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  42. I want to have coffee or blended drinks that don't taste like coffee with whip on top with you SO BAD! Or we could just cut the crap and have wine and guacamole. :)

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  43. Ok, yes, making friends as adults (and even more so as married people) is hard. I would love to sit down with you for a non-coffee-beverage date (a margarita date would be just fine too)! I would totally ask you for all of the details about both your planner and your bag, because I am in desperate need of a planner I can carry around with me and the appropriate bag in which to carry said planner!

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