Be Yourself

Sometimes it feels like blogging is just high school all over again. Cliques. Popular blogs. Contest/Awards. Trends. It's never ending! It seriously makes me sad sometimes to see people buy things, post things, say things just because they're "popular" in the blog world! Don't use a phrase just because everyone else says is. Chances are- the phrase is stupid anyway. Don't go buy a brand name item just because everyone else is! It's probably overpriced and you can find way better stuff at Target & TJMaxx for half the price. Don't follow a blog just because everyone else is--- do you like their content? Go for it! Don't enjoy it all? Why bother commenting and sucking up to them just because they're "big".... it's blogland, people!!

Don't we all start blogging for US to begin with? Why should that change?? Aren't we supposed to be blogging to talk about our lives, to journal, to make others laugh? The only way you can truly do those things is if you continue to be YOU. You're the only one who knows how to 'do you' so keep at it! Write about things that make you happy, things that you're passionate about. Show the world who YOU are, not that you can be like them.

Just a short reminder today, as it's been on my mind a lot lately. People started reading your blog because they liked you, they liked your originality. Don't change just to fit in. I don't know about you all, but I don't want to blend in. I want to stand out!

51 comments

  1. Love you so much for this! Thanks for saying what needed to be said.

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  2. Well said....It's sad blogging is like HS, no fun!

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  3. You already know how I feel about all of this (even though I am guilty of buying things that are popular, but only if I do like it!). I hate feeling like I'm thrown back in HS again sometimes. I'm so glad you're always so true to yourself! One of the many things I love about you!

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  4. well said friend....love this!

    it is so sad that grown women still act like they are in hs just to seem cool online. Reminds me of Brad Paisleys song `online`

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  5. You are so right and this is the perfect attitude to have in the blog world! being yourself is key! I have actually found that I like myself more when I am just my same old self instead of trying to keep up with "the jones's"! Love the pics!

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  6. so so true. I don't ever want to find myself blogging for others.

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  7. I love love love rainbow fish ;)

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  8. Hey Erin!

    I agree BUT I also think it is important to write FOR the reader. I touched on that in my post today. But you can do this by being YOU, just like you said:) You can write for the reader via your personal stories and experiences. That is what I love about my favorite blogs, like yours. They write about their life and I take something valuable from the post.

    Also, I like when people share hardships and tough lessons learned through out life. Not everyone is rainbows and sunshine. It's more like sunny with a chance of clouds. Nobody is perfect. So don't make it like that

    And YES!-- SERIOUSLY, ENOUGH WITH THE GIVEAWAYS FOLKS! I WILL NOT OPEN YOUR BLOG IF I SEE A GIVEAWAY ON BLOGLOVIN. Sorry, not sorry. :)

    Ginny:)
    www.buttergirldiaries.com

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  9. Preach, sista! I totally agree. And that is what I like about you ;) you keep it real up in here!

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  10. Absolutely love this. Although I must admit, I do enjoy a good giveaway as well :)

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  11. Thank you so so so so much more for this than I can even explain! This post hit the nail on the head a million times. I feel blessed to call an eloquent, wonderful, unique woman like you one of my best friends.

    LOVE YOU!

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  12. A most excellent reminder, my friend! xoxoxo

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  13. Aint THAT the truth?! ;) love youuu for your honesty ma'am.

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  14. This is so perfect! Thank you for putting into words what all of us have been thinking!

    xo, Hima
    Hima Hearts

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  15. Did I write this? It feels like it was lifted from my brain.

    I freaking hate chevron and I don't care how many other people like it.

    I only follow those who speak to something in me, and if I'm following I'm commenting.

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  16. So true little lady. When I started blogging I had no idea a whole mess of other stuff came with it!

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  17. Amen sister! It's hard to not get wrapped up in the popular blog trends....always better to be yourself!

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  18. Very well said. Its too easy for people to conform to what others are saying or doing.

    Loved your soap box today!

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  19. True, true, so so true. Glad you wrote this. Now if we could get about 95% of blogland to read it, we'd be golden....

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  20. Very well said! I was just thinking the other day that I'm glad I have the handful of blogs that I read and comment on and they read and comment back. It's been nice gaining those connections instead of speading all my time trying to get noticed on a big blog. Also, your last line totally reminded me of what a girl wants when amanda bynes and that dude are in the boat and he's asking her why she's trying so hard to fit in when she's born to stand out hahaha. Watching those amanda bynes movies makes me a little sad nowadays though since she's gone coo coo :/

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  21. I definitely agree with this! I started writing to keep a record of my family, discover myself, and have something I'm proud to show my children when they're old enough. I don't want to trade that just to be "popular"! :)

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  22. So true! Back when I very 1st started blogging it used to bother me when people didn't look at my blog, when I didn't have followers, etc. But then I realized what do I care that I don't have followers or that people may not be reading my blog. The more important thing was that I finally had an outlet for some of my feelings and experiences! And that is seriously the best

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  23. I love everything about this. I didn't start a blog to try and have the most followers - I didn't even know what that meant. Gotta keep things real. You, my friend, are one of the best :)

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  24. AMEN!!! Now can everyone stop saying "totes" it makes me want to slap someone!!

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  25. So true. If you blog to be popular than there really isn't a point. Blogging is exactly what you said..for US. Any friends and free stuff we get along the way is just a bonus right? :)

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  26. So true & what I needed to read. It's easy to get caught up in all of this. Thanks for the reminder!

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  27. AMEN!!! I agree blogging is like high school. Some of the blogs that have 4000 followers I started following because I thought "well if 4000 people like them, i bet I will too" and it turned out in alot of cases, I didnt, so I stopped following them!
    Honestly I dont have time to read 200 blogs like some people do. I limit it to about 30 of my favorite blogs...and those are the only ones I read. The ones I really like....no matter how many followers they have!!

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  28. All the ass kissing that some girls do is out of control!

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  29. I'm amazed with how awesome some of the people are i've met in blogging are and a little bummed that others i really like never comment back.

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  30. I have LOVED your blog from the minute I started reading it (and YOU KNOW THIS MAN!).. I think you are so right in posting this too. At first, when I started blogging, I thought it would be so cool to have lots of followers and sponsors and all that crap-- but I don't know anything about that. Now I just love posting silliness, fun stuff, participating, and reading the blogs that really interest me. I like getting to know the people who REALLY communicate with me.. the people who aren't all high school and what not. You TRULY are one of of my faves of ALL faves and that is because you do you!

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  31. I hope you're not referring to anything I do in this post :( .. I mean if it makes you feel any better I have been buying brand name clothes since I could talk. Haha not really, I'm too poor for that now. I do enjoy a good shopping trip at Old Navy though. I get where you are coming from.. sometimes I feel pressure to blog just so that people have something to read and it's not even that serious. Especially when the blog post is not even good haha. The giveaways are about driving me nuts though that's for sure!

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  32. you def stand out as one of my FAV blogs that i look forward to reading! you stuff is the best! :D

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  33. I love this post and this is how I'm trying to stay forever! Just little old me! ;)

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  34. my most favorite post you've ever written. adore!

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  35. Ok. I could RANT about this. I love that you wrote this, and honestly...sometimes I am guilty of being a "wannabe," too BUT it drives me CRAZY on instagram when a popular blogger is like, "Hey...look at my cute baby on my living room floor" and like A THOUSAND people are like, "OMG where did you get that rug!?!?!" Or....one time, a blogger posted her baby in a swimsuit...it was cute...but just plain...navy/white polka dots and everyone was like, "WHERE DID YOU GET THAT SUIT?"

    I'm like...you seriously can't Google, "Navy and white toddler swim suit?" I'm sure that would make me sad as a blogger...because I would just want to be like, "No...seriously...LOOK at my cute baby." ;)

    Sorry for the rant. None of my other friends read blogs...so there is no one else I can "vent" to. :)

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  36. i couldnt agree more with ya, girl!

    ps. did you ever find any fun new blogs? im hoping i have some time this weekend to devote to it, but ive been wanting to broaden my blogging horizons a bit!!

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  37. Oh-so refreshing...couldn't agree more!

    Is that first print The Rainbow Fish?? One of my favorite childhood books!

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  38. Great reminder! I definitely agree with you. I know I sometimes have to take a step back and remember why I blog in the first place. It isn't for the number of followers, it's for me. Sometimes I unfortunately forget that.

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  39. Heard.

    That first picture reminds me of the Rainbow Fish book (is it from that?) and that was my FAV in elementary school. I used to keep it in my desk so that when someone made fun of me I would look at the picture with the pretty rainbow colors and remember that it's ok to be different and fun.

    Thanks for reminding me :)

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  40. I've noticed this about blogging too! Just to let you know, I'm following your blog because I love your content! I hope you have a great week this week!

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  41. Just found your blog, and I love this post and agree with everything in it! It makes me glad to see bloggers realize this.. that I'm not alone with not following trends and all that bs in the blogging world.

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  42. Thanks for saying what I've been thinking!

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  43. PREACH lady! There is always too much jealousy and drama in blogland lately - we need to get it back to what blogging is meant to be! xo!

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  44. I love this post! I often feel the same way about "blogland." I just wanted to say hi! Lauren at Letters & Lipstick has been telling me I needed to follow you, so I wanted to check you out. :)

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  45. THANK YOU.

    This has been a huge, major pet peeve of mine lately.

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