Adoption ♥

This post is one I'm writing with a heavy heart. One that might clear up some of the excitement and some of the heartbreak I've alluded to in the past few weeks.

Although I pride myself on keeping it real around here, there are obviously topics I avoid or simply choose not to write about because I feel it's not my place to. My sister and her husband have been on a journey for quite some time now, one that is still ongoing, and one that I've started to write about a dozen times and just didn't have the words to.
adoption
Simply put, my sister and brother-in-law are going through the process of adopting a child. A process that goes on all over the country, all over the world. A process that hits close to home with a lot of my friends and readers. Did you know, on average, 120,000 kids are adopted each year in the U.S. alone? But with that, there are many 'failed' attempts at adoption... and that is what we're seeing first hand.

My sister was blessed to bring home a newborn baby two and a half weeks ago and we could not have been more excited for them. Finally! Their miracle! The baby they've been praying for day after day after day! Two and a half weeks of being thrown into parenthood, bonding with this sweet baby and becoming a family of three. Two and a half weeks of pictures and stories and excitement.

Until yesterday, when they got a call from their social worker informing them that the adoption had "fallen through" and they would be "returning" that precious baby first thing in the morning. Again, this is still not fully my story to share, so a lot of the details I cannot discuss or write about.

My heart is aching. I don't think you can truly realize your love for someone until you see them hurting.... and then you hurt right along with them. I am trying to remember that God is TRULY in control of this situation, and he has the master plan for my sister and brother-in-law. It's sure hard to see right now, believe me... but we're trying. I know there is a baby out there for them. I know that in due time, my sister and her husband will get to be incredible parents to a very lucky child.

My sister is one of the strongest people I know, she's already been such an inspiration to me in ways I'm sure she will never realize. All I can ask is that you pray for continued comfort and strength for everyone right now as we try to focus on our blessings.

76 comments

  1. Prayers for you and your sissy. I cannot even begin to fathom

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  2. I cannot even imagine what your sister and BIL are going through. Sending lots of good vibes and prayers their way.

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  3. This makes me....... so incredibly sad. I can't even BEGIN to imagine attaching yourself to a baby and then having to "return" them. Oh gosh, prayers for your family. How heartbreaking. I hope it all works out.

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  4. Oh, my...I am so sorry for your sister and her husband, and your whole family. Heart is aching for them :-(

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  5. I've celebrated with you when we found out, and now I'm saddened right along with you guys. Brittany and Aaron are going to make INCREDIBLE parent's one day...when it's their time. I love you Erin, you are so strong!!!!

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  6. Prayers for your family! I can't even imagine

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  7. Oh, Erin, I am so sorry. I can not imagine the hurt and pain your family is feeling right now. I will be praying for your family! You are right, God has a reason for this and I know He will deliver your family in perfect timing.

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  8. I can't even imagine the sadness you are all feeling. Thoughts and prayers are with your entire family.

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  9. Praying for your sister and your whole family. =(

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  10. I cannot even begin to imagine what they must be feeling. Thank you for sharing their story--thank you to them for allowing you to share it. I will be praying for ALL of you!

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  11. Your family is in my thoughts and prayers! Having each other for that support and comfort is definitely a blessing! I hope their time comes quickly! They sound like amazing people!

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  12. Thinking of your family and your sister <3

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  13. So sorry. Praying for them! Only Jesus can bring real comfort in these raw moments. Praying for you also, that The Lord would work through you to be a blessing for her!

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  14. Cannot even imagine that heartache. Positive thoughts for them + all of your family.

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  15. That is awful! I am so sorry that you sister and BIL are having to deal with this! I think this is something that Adoption Agencies really need to work on, this is happening WAY too often!

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  16. I cannot imagine the heartbreak and I will pray for your sister and her husband.

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  17. I am so sorry to hear this...that is truly heartbreaking. I will be praying for all of you through this difficult time.

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  18. I cannot even imagine the immense hurt you are all feeling. I'm so sorry that your family has to deal with something like this. I will be praying for your sister and her husband..

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  19. I am sorry to hear about this Erin. I will be praying for your sister and your family!

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  20. Wow, I cannot even imagine! My heart is hurting for them. Praying for your sister and their family!!

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  21. oh my, my heart aches for them. keeping them in my prayers!

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  22. Oh my goodness, I couldn't even imagine! My heart goes out to your sister and BIL! Praying for them and your whole family!

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  23. Oh my word. I don't even know what to say. I can feel my heart ache, I can't even begin to imagine what they're (and you) are going through. Many prayers for them, and your family. I always remember (even though sometimes it's incredibly difficult), God's timing and plan is always perfect. *BIG HUG*

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  24. This is heartbreaking to hear. I'm so sorry for your family and your sister...good things are on the way for her. GOOD things. I'm sure of it! <3

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  25. Oh Erin, I'm so sorry. I couldn't imagine being given a child and then told it wasn't yours anymore. My heart and prayers are with you and your family.

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  26. How heartbreaking!! :-(

    I also believe there is some sort of "plan" though---my aunt lost her first child to SIDS and it was so devestating because they had tried forever to get pregnant. Finally after that they were chosen to adopt a baby and then they suddenly got pregnant right after that, so they ended up with two babies only 4 months apart! Anyways, at the time it was all so senseless, but now 10 years later it has all fallen into place a little. I hope your sister and family can find some peace in it all eventually.

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  27. Oh girl- I'm so sorry. I can't even imagine going through this situation...as your sister, or as you. The bond of an aunt is a strong one too. Definitely will be thinking about your family during this rough time!

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  28. I'm so sad for them. I often think that if I won the lottery and could devote my time to a cause, it would be related to adoption. There's just something not right with "the system" the way it is now. And in the meantime there are lots of children who need a home and lots of adults who desperately want a child. It shouldn't be this hard. Hugs to you and your sister.

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  29. Praying for your family, Erin!!

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  30. My heart is breaking for your family. :( :( :( I'm so sorry friend!

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  31. Prayers to your whole family. That is just heartbreaking- having to give back their sweet baby I'm sure they've already fallen in love with.

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  32. oh my goodness, i cannot imagine how heartbreaking this must be for your sister and her husband... and hard it is for you and the rest of your family to go through as well. i'll keep them in my prayers and hope that their story has a very happy ending, soon!

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  33. Praying for you guys. I have a dear friend that went through this same situation, sadly more than once :( We've found that if and when it's meant to be, it will be. Cliche and generic I know, but it is really true. You are in my thoughts, my dear.

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  34. There are over 400,000 children in the foster care system. Coming from an adopted child, it's unfortunate that the process to adopt a child can be like jumping through hoops, especially when amazing people like your sister are trying to provide a stable and secure home to a child who might not otherwise have one. My adoption took 3 years - ridiculous.

    I have faith that the perfect child will find your sister. I'll keep her in my thoughts :-)

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  35. My heart breaks for your sister, her husband, and your entire family. I can relate to the emotion of "having" a child and losing that baby and it is not one I would wish on my worst enemy. Many prayers (I truly mean this!) will be going up for y'all. I am so sorry. . .

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  36. This breaks my heart for your family. I will be sending soo many prayers your way! Thankful our God is the King of peace and comfort, even when it seems impossible to find. Love you girl!

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  37. That's so terrible. :-( Keeping your family I'm my thoughts and prayers. <3

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  38. Oh my gosh, I can't even imagine. My heart is breaking for you and your family. Please let your sister and brother in law know they are in my prayers.

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  39. This makes me incredibly sad. I'll keep your sister and her husband in my prayers along with the precious baby that was in a good home and would have been loved unconditionally.

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  40. I am so sorry with everything that's going on! I can't imagine but with having friends going through adoption I can only hope that this story doesn't happen to others. They will find a child for their forever home soon. You all are in my thoughts.

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  41. That is so sad. I can't even imagine "returning" a human being. Prayers that your sister & her husband are able to grow their family soon.

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  42. praying for your family, I can't imagine the heartbreak of getting so excited only to be let down. Love that Isaiah verse, I always remember Jeremiah 29:11 when those don't work out as expected (or as desired).

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  43. Praying for your family! We are considering adoption due to some fertility problems but I can't imagine what your sister and brother in law are feeling right now. As well as the whole family. It is hard (so hard) to understand God's timing. That is one of the hardest lessons I have had to learn when faced with any obstale. His timing, although hard to understand, is perfect timing! Praying hard for y'all!

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  44. omg, that is truly heartbreaking. I am thinking of your family and cannot believe the heartache they must feel!

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  45. Oh, I am so sorry to hear this Erin. Praying for your family!!! <3

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  46. Praying for your sister and brother-in-law! This is so sad but hopefully with patience and a miracle another little baby will come their way soon. Just have faith that with every disappointment it's God's way of saying He's got something better in mind.

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  47. It always breaks my heart to hear stories like this. My husband and I want to adopt one day and I'm so scared of having to go through that myself. I can't imagine basically having your child taken away. Praying for them!

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  48. This breaks my heart. I didn't even know this kind of thing happened! Thoughts and prayers for your sister & BIL -- and the whole family. <3

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  49. i cant even fathom. i am so sorry. i know theyll be blessed with a child but waiting is so hard.
    praying for your whole family. xxo

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  50. Praying for your entire family and the baby... I can't imagine the pain and heartache that is being felt with your family. I truly pray God blesses them with the perfect precious child and gift.

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  51. Oh my gosh, Erin, I can't even imagine!! I'm definitely praying for your sister and your family!!

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  52. oh my gosh erin. LOTS AND LOTS AND LOTS of prayers for your sister and brother in law. That must not have been their baby. Their baby is coming.

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  53. Oh so sorry, praying for them!

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  54. Prayers and hugs for y'all. :) just keep on smiling through the hard days.

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  55. Prayers for you and your family. I can not even begin to imagine the heart ache :(

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  56. I still can't imagine what you and your family are going through...I also can't imagine loving someone any more than I LOVE YOU.

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  57. I so admire your sister and her hubby for adopting. It is such a wonderful thing! The heartbreak is a risk and there is nothing I can say to ease their pain...thinking of you all.

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  58. Oh my word. How heartbreaking.

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  59. Oh wow. I can't even imagine how horrible that situation must be. Sending positive thoughts their way!!

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  60. Thinking about you and your family, Erin.

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  61. I'm so sorry Erin. I could not even imagine. I'm praying for you all. And you are right God has a plan.

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  62. This is so heartbreaking. I'm so sorry and I will keep your sister and your family in my thoughts. Sending positive thoughts your way!

    Karen A
    http://www.teenyhippie.com/

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  63. Oh my gosh, Erin. My heart is breaking. I can't even imagine. Know that I"m saying a prayer for them and for your family. They are going to be amazing parents someday soon!

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  64. Oh, Erin. My heart just breaks reading this. I have no words to say. I'll be praying for your family - for patience, understanding, hope and most of all, peace.

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  65. Erin, I am so sorry... I am praying right now for your sister & brother-in-law and you and the rest of the family. This is heartbreaking. We have been trying to conceive for a couple of years now... I can't imagine finally becoming a mom & then having to return the child?! It is so sad.

    Praying for God's healing & comfort...and that they have a new babe FOR GOOD in their arms very soon.

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  66. This breaks my heart Erin. I'm so sad for your sister and brother in law. A girl I know is going through the same thing right now in having to give back a child they've raised for 7 months. I just can't imagine. Thankfully God knows the full story for your family and for this little baby. Praying for your family!

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  67. ugh. i am feeling so hurt for your sister and family! i will be thinking about you and praying that each of you are able to hang onto the hope that will one day bring another baby into the arms of those deserving! (hugs friend!)

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  68. I'm so sorry Erin, I couldn't even imagine the heart break you all must be going thru. Keeping you, your sister and your family in my prayers <3

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  69. Totally heart broken for them!! And you. So hard :(

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  70. Oh goodness.. I just got the chance to read this! What a painful situation. Being that I lost my only son at birth-- I feel like I can totally relate to this. I know that during the adoption process, you are sometimes taught or told that adoptions can potentially can fall though but you never expect it to happen, it's just awful. I know that after wanting a child SO badly and waiting and praying, to finally get a sweet baby and start creating a bond, only to have it literally ripped from your loving arms is the WORST.. and that they are grieving now.. the entire family is. In fact, I know that they will continue to grieve. I can only pray that time will ease this pain and God will bless them with another child that will be theirs to keep forever. Miracles happen and in all the pain, we-- as friends, even in the blog world, need to ban together and become prayer warriors and let our tremendous faith and prayers bring gentle comfort to the entire family and with that I just KNOW a new blessing will soon come to the deserving parents! XOXO

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  71. I missed this post earlier this week - I think it was a good thing, though, because I wouldn't have had the time to truly think about this earlier in the week. My heart is breaking for your sister. It makes me so mad/sad when I think about how hard it is to adopt a baby. There are so many children out there who deserve loving parents, and just from knowing you, I know that your sister will be a wonderful mother one day. I pray that it is a day that is soon and that they won't be too financially strained from the process (another thing that makes me so mad!). She's lucky to have a loving sister like you, though!

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  72. I work in the child welfare/foster care field and see things like this happen far too often, and it is so, so sad. I feel so much compassion for the families who are willing to open their hearts and lives for these babies. I will pray that the right baby will come to your sister and her husband at the perfect time, and also that their broken hearts are healed.

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  73. so i started reading your friday's letters but had to come here when i read the first one.

    my sister is my best friend so i completely relate to how heartbroken for her you are. i hate this so much for them. please know i'll be praying for them sweet friend. i just know God must have a baby in store for such a special couple.

    XO, A

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  74. I will definitely be praying for your sister and brother-in-law and the rest of your family as well. I can't imagine the pain of loss that they are feeling right now. God definitely has a plan though...a good and perfect one that will be revealed in His time. I'll pray for strength, courage, and healing during this tough time though.

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  75. I just stumbled on your blog, and a) I love it, and b) I'm so sorry to hear about what your sister and BIL are going through. My brother was adopted at birth, and until the day the courts appointed us to be his fully legally recognized family, I was terrified that we'd have to return him. I can't even begin to imagine how painful it must be for your family. I fully agree that God definitely has a plan -- that said, I'll be praying for your family and that the right baby comes to them at the right time!

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