Perfectionist

Perfection usually has a positive meaning behind it. You just had the 'perfect' cheesecake… you found the 'perfect' dress… today was absolutely 'perfect.'

But sometimes, perfection isn't a good thing. I feel like I can definitely be a perfectionist at times, if not a majority of the time. When things don't go exactly according to plan, I let that bother me. When my house isn't in order, it stresses me out. When I can't finish an entire to-do list in one day, I feel like I've failed.

And I know, I know. I shouldn't be so hard on myself. No one is perfect. Heck, no one is really even close to perfect! So why does it bother me when my life can't run perfectly from a day's beginning to end, week after week?

I'll be honest, this past weekend? Some things went right, some went wrong. Parts absolutely sucked…. other parts turned out better than expected. Luckily I have people who keep my head on straight. People that remind me that it's okay if I can't do it all…. that it's okay when I get behind or when I mess up. People like Jared who don't stress about anything, ever, and can bring me back down to Earth when I'm having a panic attack.


So today… go out and BE YOU. Work hard for excellence, but don't beat yourself up if something isn't perfect. Trust me, I'm talking to myself as much as I'm talking to anyone else who might read this. I'm sure there are other out there who can relate. Others who get frustrated to the point of tears when things aren't going according to the plan. Others who want to stop being so hard on themselves and just BE.

If you need to remember anything today, remember these wise words of Aibileen Clark:


It's true :)

24 comments

  1. Such a great post girl. Totally understand what you mean. When things aren't how you'd like them, or you'd do them, it's hard to not get a bit frustrated. That's one thing that's great about marriage, is learning to lean on the other person. It sounds like Jared balances you out just fine :) And love that quote, that book, and that movie! xoxo

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  2. Now I really need to hear your story. I can be the same way...I set my expectations so high sometimes that nothing can live up to them. Dang it. And I watched The Help this weekend. I love it to so much! Hope today is a wonderful (practically perfect) day for you!

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  3. I am saving this post as a favorite!

    I do this way too much!! Especially now that I am a mom. Some days I just feel like I am doing everything wrong and I want everything to be PERFECT {while I know that is impossible} and B is the same as Jared he always seems to ground me.

    I love that quote from The help! one of my favorite movies!

    have a great day friend!

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  4. love this! That quote from The Help is one of my favs! So true too, for all of us!

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  5. You are such a role model, Erin! Especially to me... love you!!

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  6. SO true my friend! This is an amazing post! xoxo

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  7. I often repeat that quote to myself, too. Along with Stuart Smalley: "I'm good enough, I'm smart enough, and doggone it, people like me!"

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  8. love this post. girl, you posted some words i needed to here after some crazy times. so thanks! ;) glad it helps you.

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  9. I so needed this today. Perfection is not worth the stress it causes. And who really likes a perfect person anyways?

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  10. Great post! I'm just like you, where I can be a perfectionist at times. Everything here is well said. I love the quotes too!

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  11. I'm actually going to post something similar to this sometime this week. Its hard not to try to be a perfectionist all the time but that's just my personality as well. A friend of my hubby's had a hard time with that the other day (let's just say it involved a trash can) and so its made me think more too.

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  12. I did a post about perfection sometime last fall. I totally agree with all of these. I use to be a perfectionist and then I realized that there is more to life. Yes, I do like to make things the best they can be. But if it doesn't work out, then oh well! I'm still have my moments though!!

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  13. I totally feel you on this, girl. I forget how much of a control freak I am until I'm breaking down over losing control. It ain't pretty.

    Thanks for the reminder today, lovely! :)

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  14. I sometimes get caught up on being "perfect" too. :( Love you! And I think you're pretty perfect just the way you are!

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  15. Perfect can be boring. You is awesome. Remember that. :)

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  16. I get caught up in the exact same feelings all-too-often. And I definitely get too worked up when things aren't perfect sometimes. Jeff has to be the one to pull me back down to reality as well, and make me see that just because it isn't "perfect," doesn't mean it's not still good, or that I've tried. Why do we struggle with "perfection" so much?! I wish we could all be more lenient, with ourselves, and with each other!

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  17. i feel like this so much. it's so hard and I do let myself stress out. michael is the exact same so it's a nice balance (even if it sometimes makes me mad that he is so relaxed!) love this Erin!

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  18. I am so glad you wrote about this. Sometimes we need reminders that it's okay to not be perfect. Like Jared, Ross never stressed. I don't understand it. Stress is probably my worst quality ever. I am just naturally a stressed out person. Yuck :(

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  19. This is definitely a nice pick-me-up for today. I actually stayed late at work today and still didn't finish my to-do list.

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  20. Hope everything is ok! John is the same way. He gives me points to consider that I didn't think about. Keep your head up! It's almost your birthday and you are almost on vacay!

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