Moving on

Sometimes you just need a Monday off from blogging. This is mostly true after your team falls apart on national television and loses in the first round of the playoffs. Then, Mondays are reserved for pulling yourself off the floor, wiping the remaining tears away and trying to remember that there IS more to life than football. (Not much, but it's there) ;)

So there was some serious 'moving on' in more than one sense over the past weekend. Moving on past the Bengals loss yes, but something much bigger than that as well. Jared's dad accepted a new job about six weeks ago, and he flew out there Saturday to start his new venture.
My father-in-law's going away dinner @ Montgomery Inn
Jared's mom will be joining him in the next couple of months, once they get everything squared away with selling their house and tying up loose ends at her job. It's a pretty big move, in case you didn't notice that I said he was flying to their new home in their new state. They will be about an 11-hour drive from us... and to be honest, I'm not sure what to think of it. In one sense- we know it's a good opportunity for him, but on the other hand, it's SO FAR! And in the middle of no where! Jared's family has always been extremely close, so I know it's going to be rough not having his dad just 10 minutes away anymore.

Plus it's hard not to think about future kids, and the relationship they will/will not have with their grandparents. Jared's parents plan on living in their new area at least another 10-12 years, and it may very well end up being a permanent move. It's weird to think that our kids (I know, I'm getting ahead of myself!) could easily be in third grade and only see their grandparents a couple times a year. Jared and I were both blessed to grow up having close relationships with all of our grandparents and we obviously want that for our future mini-me's as well!
The guys
With his ladies :) And yes, I look like a jumbo marshmallow..... don't care-it was COLD.
I know it's unrealistic to think that everyone in both of our families could just live in the same area and all live happily ever after. Trust me, my sister lives about 10 hours in the opposite direction of where Jared's parents are headed.... so it's been a big glaring reminder that our family is spreading out more and more. Even though my parents are almost 1 hour away from Jared and I, I'm so thankful that's all it is.

So do you live close to most of your family? Just a couple family members? Or are YOU the ones that peaced out and left your family to miss you?! ;) It will be a big change for everyone, and I'm sure figuring out the holiday schedule will be one large headache and a half..... but I won't think about that. Not yet, at least.

Since this post got all kinds of serious, I'll leave with you a couple of awesome photo bombs from Charlie's going-away dinner ... completed by none other than my hubby and his brother.
Charlie- we are going to miss you!!

30 comments

  1. Aw, that's so sad =(
    I was the one that got up & moved away when I got engaged.
    Thankfully only 1 hour distance.
    My family is very close knit (they all live in the same town)
    So it took some getting used to.
    We drive to Newtown almost every weekend to see my family though.
    Sorry about your team!! =(
    Love the pictures!

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  2. Oops... I'm defiitely the one that peaced out and left everyone to miss me! haha. I did it first with college (DC is 6 hours from Syracuse) and now even more with Florida. BUT once I'm married with bambinos I hope to be closer to my family. I also think it has mroe to do with effort than distance. I grew up 20 minutes away from my maternal grandma and don't really have a close relationship with her. On the other hand, my paternal grandma lived in NYC and AZ and I am very close with her! It takes some finagling (very hard to spell at 8am) but I know you guys can do it!! Love the photobombs :)

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  3. You know how I feel about this. Big hugs!!

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  4. I live close to my family now...But I did move away for 3 years a few years ago. I don't know that I could live anywhere else. Especially now that both of my brothers have babies! I feel like I don't see them enough as it is. Soryy girl, It will tough at first! Just remember that the moments you do have with them are so so precious!

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  5. Of our 8 parents 6 of them live within 10 miles. It's wonderful having them close by, but sometimes it's a little TOO close. I'd love to have a little space, but I can't imagine being another state away! Sorry lady, it will be a tough transition but you all will find a way to make it work!

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  6. I know this feeling all too well, my sister lives in AL and they used to live in MD, 3-4 hr drive turned into 12....we only get to see them now 2/3 times a year usually holidays and maybe summer! Sucks for Breanna too since my sisters daughter is her only female cousin. But we deal and take full advantage when they are here.

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  7. oh moving is so hard. I hate when people move, I just really have a hard time dealing with it. But maybe you will have fun times going to see them!

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  8. I was always closer to my grandparents that lived 8 hours away than the ones that live 10 minutes down the road! If they are a close family, they won't let distance keep them apart! :)

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  9. Sorry about the Cinci loss, at least you made it to Playoffs. SO you can still brag to Steeler's fans..if it makes you feel any better I have an awful feeling the Ravens are gunna get KILLED by Denver this week =/

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  10. Most of my family lives near me, my oldest sister is about an hour away. Some times its a good thing, some times its bad cause I miss my nephews. I've applied to jobs in Indy, which is 2 hours away from home, but I went to school there so I'm used to the drive. One of my friends is moving to NC and wants me to go with her, so idk where I'll end up!

    Oh, and I understand about the tears, 2 of my teams got beat 2 days in a row...I'm all sad today.

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  11. I thought about you Saturday. I know that had to be rough. :(
    I know this move will be hard. I can't imagine moving away from my parents or having them move away. I hope they're moving somewhere fun that you'll get to explore when you go to visit!

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  12. I cannot imagine being super far from my parents. Both my and my husband's families live within 15 minutes of us. While it has its down sides (like them popping up uninvited and such), it is super wonderful when we need a last-minute baby or dog sitter or if I just need a hug from my daddy after a horrible day. We have been very spoiled though to have our folks so close, because now when I look at job opportunities I am not even interested in ones more than 40 miles away :/ which limits my search BIG time.

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  13. I always love seeing your pictures - always looks like you're having fun!

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  14. Even though we will miss Charlie, like we talked about Saturday night... at least we know our kids will have THEE coolest aunt/uncles in the world to add that extra needed love in every single darn day.

    I love the last picture of us with Charlie, drop box? ;) hahaha Jared/Caleb kill me with their faces.

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  15. Congrats on the job!! :) We live super close with all of our family, and I can't imagine living that far away! I'm freaking out about my sister living 3 hours away! HAHA I'm sure you guys will get it figured out though!!

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  16. I hate when family moves away. My Mom's job has her all over the country so we rarely see her and it is so hard because she is the parent that I am closest with. Most of my family is within an hour but we also have people in MI, KS, NC, FL, so pretty much all over the place. So I completely understand how you feel!

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  17. Aww I'm sorry to hear that your in-laws are moving away! I grew up with only my immediate family in San Diego. My mom's family (or most of it!) was only 2 hours away in LA, so we would see them for big family gatherings multiple times a year. My dad's family lives across the country on the East Coast, and growing up I would see them once a year. But once it got to high school and air fairs sky rocketted, it's been a while since I last saw them. When I went to college in SB, I was able to get a lot closer with my aunts and uncles on my Mom's side here in CA. It was SO great to really develop a close relationship with them, and I hope my kids can have close relationships with their extended family as well!

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  18. Half of my family is within 10 miles of me, but the rest are all over. Some are a few hours away and some are in different time zones. It's hard being across the country, but it makes the time we spend with them so much more meaningful!

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  19. I am so sorry to hear this! It is so hard when you are so close to them!

    I am grateful for such a big family. I have two sisters and a brother and two sister in laws and a brother in law. We still have birthday parties with our family.... Grandma, Aunts Uncles and cousins.

    Hang in there!

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  20. i can't imagine living that far away from my parents! hopefully it's a good place to vacation - that always makes a big move a little easier :)

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  21. Its different to be away from your family, not that a hour is a big deal, but my entire family still lives in the same area and I peaced out for college and ended up saying in the Charlotte area. My fiance's family is about 3 hours away so we are 'on our on'. Its never been a huge deal, until now we are planning a wedding so there is lots of driving back and fourth for me and my mom. I agree that if and when the time comes for kido's we want to be as close to my parents as possible.

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  22. I'm so sorry, girl! I know it does suck to have everyone move away, it's just not the same. I actually didn't grow up with my grandparents near. Both of my parents were born & raised about 6 hours away & my dad moved here before i was born. This is my home, and i'm glad i didn't grow up there (very very small town that has a walmart & movie theater now but NOTHING back then!). As kids, we went up every Thanksgiving & Christmas & sometimes during the summer, too. I know that took a lot out of my parents. I love my grandparents, but we are not as close as my hubby is to his granny - well, she passed a year ago but they were very close. And i actually was closer to her than my grandparents. Just b/c i spent a lot of time w/ her.

    I know things can work out & be okay. I often really want to move b/c i just don't love this area... i always want to move to somewhere like Savannah GA or the Carolinas. But then i think about how i would only be able to go if our families came too! Haha. I am sure we will stay here & our kids will be close to their grandparents. Although mine sometimes talk about moving away after dad retires...

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  23. BTW - love the cute footballs in your header! Haha. :)

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  24. I've always lived close to my family and Drew has too. I guess sometimes I take it for granted! I'm sorry your in-laws are moving away, but now you'll have a new place to visit. :) And maybe when you start having kids it will make them come home sooner!!

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  25. I guess we were the ones who peaced out coming to Nashville from wv for me and Ohio for Derek. Although his sister and brother in law are here and his parents plan to move down here in the next couple of years! I guess we will always have a 6 hour drive home to my parents but I do think about the kids thing quite often and hope that I can bring my parents down someday! Love ya girl!

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  26. I think it depends a lot on the family---some families can live right next to eachother and not be really close, and some can live far apart and still stay really close!

    All of my extended family (aunts/uncles, cousins, grandparents) lived about 30 minutes from us all growing up, and I still only saw them a few times a year at holidays. That's just the way they operate! But now my husband's brother lives about 13 hours away and even though we only get together a few times a year we talk online a lot and read eachothers blogs, etc....so I know more about their day to day lives than many people who live right near me.

    Hopefully you guys can work out ways to stay in touch!

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  27. I've been pretty lucky to have my immediate family pretty close. Several years ago my mom moved about 5 hours away and we only saw each other once or twice a year. That was hard! Now she's about 45 minutes away and it's definitely better! My husbands parents live across the driveway from us! I'm so glad we have a great relationship because I can't imagine my life without them right THERE!

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  28. Hi, Erin! Stopping by from Halie's blog! So nice to "meet" you! :)

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  29. I never did live close to my grandparents so I'd love for Mia to be able to experience that... but it's probably not going to happen. Thank goodness we have all means of social media to keep in touch. Blogging, facebook, instagram... and how amazing that we have skype and face time... we can keep in touch better than ever!
    LOVE the pictures!

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